Invite Faux Pas OR Helpful Information?
A huge thank you to our blog followers. We so appreciate your loyalty. One of my clients recently reached out to me with a fantastic etiquette question and I thought I would share with all of you.
The scenario goes something like this: the bride licked the last of her invitation suites shut and was about to pop them all in the mail when a friend corrected her for including information about her gift registry. Our bride looks up the etiquette rule and low and behold she is surprised to find out that according to official etiquette it is against the rules to include gift registry information in the formal invitations.
Needless to say our bride was pretty devastated. She initially asked me if I had any ideas on how to unseal and reseal her invitations so she could remove the offending material.
But I had a different take, which I wanted to share with all of you!
"Dearest bride you are in luck! Alaskans and in fact most people don't subscribe to traditional etiquette.
It is becoming increasingly more and more common for people to include registry info in their invitation suite.
In fact, you will probably find that your guests will appreciate the included information and will be annoyed if they have to call around trying to figure out where you are registered.
Yes, traditional etiquette says you ought not to include registry info in the invite, but technically you are also supposed to address all male children under the age of 13 as 'Master' ... and I have yet to find a bride to follow that rule.
There are all kinds of crazy etiquette rules. If you are having a formal or traditional wedding, especially if you are hosting it in the South or on the East Coast - well then, it might behoove you to adhere to the formal rules.
However, if you are like most of our clients and hosting your wedding in Alaska, you may be having a casual wedding. If so, then you don't have to feel bad about throwing out some of the rules. Especially those that are informative and helpful to guests."
Our bride was relieved and her beautiful invites promptly went out in the mail. Alternatively, you my dear readers may consider including the registry information in your wedding website instead.
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Hey there! I am Rebecca Kopperud, a born and bred Alaskan, as well as the owner and chief designer behind
La Boum Events.
I have always been a party planner at heart, even from childhood. In 2012, after some soul searching I realized my life long dream by founding La Boum Events. For me it is the perfect balance of my desire to be a working artist and my get-shit-done approach to life. I have a quick brain, I am great with details, I love a challenge and approach problem solving with a flexible attitude... it was a perfect fit.
When I am not working, I love to slow down and enjoy the simple Alaska life with my husband and kids. I am savoring the slow process of renovating an old farm house, running an urban homestead, and making wine.
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